Tuesday, April 29, 2008

How Many Sociopaths Live In Your Building?

"We are accustomed to think of sociopaths as violent criminals, but in The Sociopath Next Door, Harvard psychologist Martha Stout reveals that a shocking 4 percent of ordinary people, one in 25, has an often undetected mental disorder, the chief symptom of which is that that person possesses no conscience. He or she has no ability whatsoever to feel shame, guilt, or remorse. One in 25 everyday Americans, therefore, is secretly a sociopath. They could be your colleague, your neighbor, even family. And they can do literally anything at all and feel absolutely no guilt.

How do we recognize the remorseless? One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths more charming or interesting than the other people around them. They're more spontaneous, more intense, more complex, or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced. Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love. Sociopaths learn early on to show sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others' suffering. They live to dominate and thrill to win.

The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already. Part of the urgency in reading The Sociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know, someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for, is a sociopath. But what do we do with that knowledge? To arm us against the sociopath, Dr. Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play. Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game.

It is the ruthless versus the rest of us, and The Sociopath Next Door will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you know."

8 Comments:

Blogger Aethlos said...

i have the exact opposite of this - i have shame, guilt, and remorse all the time, about everything, lol. and i got two helpings in the "conscience" department... omg, my conscience guides every move of my day... it's my conscience i have to live with. where a sociopath feels no empathy, i feel like i'm practically in other people's skins... i can't even hold my own remote control when i have guests. i'm hypersensitive to the way other people feel... i wish i could turn that down a little... i wish i could give LESS of a shit what other people thought... but i'm so bound by societal "norms"... ugh. I KNOW A COUPLE OF SOCIOPATHS THOUGH. lol

4:26 PM  
Blogger Aethlos said...

"underneath they are indifferent to others' suffering" See, this is where i wish i were a little more like a sociopath... i spend WAY too many hours of the day outraged about all the suffering in the world - iraq, darfur, congo, rape, slaughter, genocide... omg... it haunts me day and night... i just hate thinking about it... i think about all that shit too much... there is so little i can do about it, that i wish it didn't bother me so much all the time. i want to be more like a sociopath in that respect... i don't want to sit around reading NICK KRISTOF and weeping... ugh.

4:31 PM  
Blogger Tyler said...

I gave this book an A++.

5:04 PM  
Blogger Aethlos said...

how many sociopaths do you know tyler?

5:05 PM  
Blogger DJRainDog said...

American Sociopath #1: George W. Bush. American Sociopath #2: Dick Cheney. World Sociopath #1: Pope Benedict XVI (or whatever his number is -- Personally, I wish his number were up). It's easy to spot them in major public positions, isn't it?

9:12 AM  
Blogger Aethlos said...

i just read this book AGAIN!!!!!! and it's a fantastic refresher on stanley milgram... this book is EXCELLENT. although, i in now way however believe the number of sociopaths is FOUR PERCENT. i understand that few of them are violent, but FOUR PERCENT??? no way.

9:32 AM  
Blogger Aethlos said...

okay, i read this AGAIN, yesterday... it's a GREAT primer on MILGRAM... wow , what a cool book..........

5:14 PM  
Blogger Aethlos said...

OH, and BY THE WAY: CRYSTAL METH MAKES PEOPLE SOCIOPATHS. DO NOT USE IT AND DO NOT BE AROUND ANYONE WHO DOES. WHILE ON METH PEOPLE ARE TOTAL SOCIOPATHS. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED.

6:18 PM  

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